How Do I Trust God
| Asha O'Brien-Grudzinskas
In church, connect groups, conversations with friends we hear it a lot, ‘Trust God.’ We are encouraged to trust him with our relationships, our finances, our careers, our children and every other part of our lives. But for some of us, these two words aren’t as simple as they sound. For some, the word ‘trust’ is enough for us to pack our metaphorical bags and abandon the conversation. How do you trust when your trust has been broken, when people who said they wouldn’t leave left, when someone who should’ve protected you did the unthinkable, when you prayed and prayed and what you so desperately wanted to happen didn’t end up coming to pass.
Our inmost being wants to trust God but our fear of getting hurt once more leads us to put up walls, walls that we think will protect us but in fact will do the opposite. These walls block out His perfect love that has the power to cast out all fear and heal our deepest hurts. We were not created to live in fear as it says in 2 Timothy 1:7 ‘For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.’ Unfortunately, I don’t have the perfect 3 step plan on how to overcome your fears and learn to trust God but here are a few points that have helped me on my journey.
1. Know Who He Is
There’s a psychology term known as transference. The medical dictionary describes it as ‘the unconscious tendency to assign to others in one's present environment feelings and attitudes associated with significance in one's early life.’ A practical outworking of this could look like a teenage boy who was abandoned by his father as a child and now lives with the fear that God will leave him too. Let’s get one thing clear, GOD IS GOD. He is not your absent father or the friend that stole from you. Immerse yourself in the scriptures and find out who He truly is. He is love (1 John 4:16), He is creator (John 1:3), He is all powerful (Jer 32:17), He is all knowing (1 John 3:20), He will never leave you or forsake you (Heb 13:5), He is unchangeable (Hebrews 13:8), He is our healer (Isa 53:5), He can not lie (Hebrews 6:18), He is good (Mark 10:18) and that’s only scratching the surface.
2. Know Who You Are
2 Corinthians 5:17 ‘Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold the new has come.’ Have you gotten to know the new you? The you that is a child of God (Eph 1:5), dearly loved (John 3:16), chosen (Eph 1:4) and favoured (Psalm 84:11)? Again I encourage you, immerse yourself in the scriptures. God has written you the perfect love letter. Go through it and discover all the incredible things He has written about YOU!
Ephesians 4:31-32 ‘Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.’ Is there someone in your life that you need to forgive? Let’s take a step back and look at transference again. Maybe the bitterness you are holding in your heart is stopping you from trusting God. I know it’s hard but please forgive, let go, you are holding yourself back from the incredible life God has planned for you.
4. Remind Yourself Of His Faithfulness
Chat to a friend or a pastor about how God has been faithful in their lives, keep a prayer journal where you can write down your own testimonies and re-read the stories in the Bible that tell of God’s faithfulness. He saved Noah and his family from the flood. He gave Abraham and Sarah a son. He sent the Holy Spirit just like He said He would. It’s the same God that fulfilled these promises that will fulfil His promises to you.
Once we know who He is, who we are in Him when we let go and forgive past hurts and remind ourselves of just how faithful He truly is, trusting God doesn’t seem so scary anymore.